When it comes to sex toys, the wand style vibrator is amongst the most popular options – and it is easy to see why. Versatile, satisfying and designed with your pleasure in mind, the so-called “magic wand” is very aptly named – and there are plenty of names and products, from Le Wand to Hitachi. As well as providing plenty of pleasure, they have the added bonus of doubling up as a massager, and are one of the most discreet options available. Whether you are a veteran masturbator, or new to the world of self-pleasure, learning how to use a wand vibrator can unlock a new level of pleasure, and introduce you to a range of new sensations – this is sure to be a very welcome addition to your sex toy collection.
In the simplest terms, a wand is a type of vibrator which includes a long handle and a rounded head. The longer body is typically flexible, meaning it can bend and move to fit the natural contours of your body, allowing for a sensational massage and incredible internal stimulation. You can see the selection of wand vibrators we consider the top here.
Wand massagers are designed to ensure that the majority of vibrations are focused in the head – this helps to ensure the maximum stimulation. Rather than focus on internal penetration, wand vibrators have a larger surface area, and this means that they are an ideal option for those new to sex toys, who may not feel ready for penetration. We wrote a post about different types of vibrators where you can learn which one best aligns with your current needs.
Wand vibrators are different to standard, penetrative vibrators – and the difference is part of the appeal for many.
Steps For Using Your Wand Vibrator
Wondering how to use a vibrator? Getting used to using wand massagers may take a little practice, but there are a few simple steps you can follow to help you make the most of your toy.
1. Getting Comfortable
Perhaps the most important consideration is your comfort. Wand style vibrators tend to be easier to use than other vibrators, but you will still need to make sure that you are totally comfortable to allow you to focus on pleasure. Find somewhere private to play – wand massagers tend to be pretty quiet, but there will still be some buzzing, so make sure that you have somewhere that you will not be interrupted – this will also help to ensure that you are more relaxed.
2. Fantasy Fun
Having some sort of stimulation is usually beneficial – this can really help to get you in the mood, and will depend on your own preferences. Some people enjoy movies or photos, while others may depend on their partner to get them off. No matter what works for you, having some sort of stimulation or fantasy will help enhance your experience.
3. Moving The Wand
When you start moving, it is a good idea to start far away from your clit, allowing you to build up the tension and boost the sensation. It can help to leave some fabric between you and your magic wand the first few times you use it, and avoid keeping the wand massager on your clit for too long – especially if you are new to sex toys – as the motor can be quite strong and can cause you to orgasm too early. As you grow more confident and experienced, you can increase the time and sensation, as well as playing with extra attachments – brands such as the Hitachi magic wand, and the “Le Wand” model often come with a range of attachments. Check out our Magic Wand review to see if this is something for you.
Three steps to enjoyment
- Comfort
- Stimulation
- Movement
Making The Most Of Your Wand Vibrator
Once you have built up your tolerance, and feel comfortable using your magic wand massager, there are a number of ways you can ensure that you can get the most magic from your magic wand.
Partner Play
Double your fun by enjoying the pleasure with your partner, offering the chance to share your sensation with someone else. If this is the first wand sex toy that the two of you have shared, it is a good idea to introduce the idea slowly, and make it clear that this is an addition, rather than a replacement. If they are in agreement, consider shopping for your new magic wand together, so you both actively choose the addition to your sex life. Once you have chosen the best toy for your needs, have an open conversation where you discuss exactly what you want to get from the experience.
On The Edge
Part of the joy of magic wands is the larger surface area – these are perfect for keeping you on the edge of pleasure and building before allowing you to tip over into bliss. Try delaying your orgasms for as long as possible for an intense experience…
Tub Fun
As with other vibrators, the tub can be the perfect place to explore your wand massager, as the water offers extra lubrication which can make your experience more comfortable.
If you are playing with your partner, it is crucial to talk – especially if you have never used sex toys as a couple before. The key to success is open, honest communication at every stage.
It is also good to know how a vibrator works to get the full picture and maximum benefits. Check out our blog post on how does a vibrator work to find out more.
Frequently Asked Questions
What Is A Wand Vibrator?
A wand vibrator is a type of vibrator which offers an exciting, sensual alternative to typical penetrative vibrators. With a large head and surface area, these toys blend sex toy and massager for amazing clitoral stimulation and pleasure. These vibrators can also be used to stimulate a range of other body parts, from inner thighs to nipples, and everything in between.
How Do You Use A Wand Vibrator?
Use a wand vibrator in much the same way that you would any other sex toy – starting slowly, and building your way up. Make sure that you have a private place to play, and start further away from your clit, exploring the sensation of the massager on different parts of your body. Take things slowly to start with, before building up to sustained vibration, and making use of the attachments offered by brands such as Le Wand. Use lube to help with comfort.
How Do You Use A Wand Vibrator With A Partner?
You use a wand vibrator with a partner by first introducing the topic in an open, sensitive and honest way – and make it clear that you are suggesting this as an exciting addition, rather than a replacement or as a criticism of your existing sex life. If you both agree, make sure you take it slow, and maintain open lines of communication to keep everyone happy.
How Do You Clean A Wand Vibrator?
You clean a wand vibrator by making sure that you wipe down the surface of the toy with warm water, or using a specialist sex toy cleaner. It is imperative that you clean your toy after every use – and especially if you are sharing the toy with your partner, as this can increase your risk of infection or unwanted bacteria.
Conclusion
If you are looking for your first toy, or are in the mood for something new to add to your collection, wand vibrators can be a great next step. With so many brands and products available, from Hitachi to Le Wand, there are plenty of options for you to choose from – and part of the fun comes from experimenting to find your ideal match!
