Vibrators are amongst the most well known of sex toys, and a popular option for both individuals and couples. As with other toys, there are a range of types available. Getting to grips with your vibrator – in every sense of the word – is a great way to explore your likes and dislikes, learn what turns you on in the bedroom and unlock the full potential of your erogenous zones. Wondering how to use a vibrator to its full potential? We have everything you need to know, as well as the ultimate guide to choosing the best sex toy for your situation.
Vibrators come in a range of shapes and sizes… Below we will explore various vibrator types.
Penetrative
Perhaps the best known version of the vibrator is the penetrative model. As the name suggests, these are phallic, and look like a classic dildo. As with dildos, these types of vibrators come in all shapes, sizes and degrees of realism, but all can be used to target the clitoris for stimulation, or to replicate the sensations of penetrative sex.
G Spot
G spot vibrators, such as these, are – perhaps unsurprisingly – another popular type of toy, and, as the name suggests, a G spot vibrator (see here) is an internal vibrator designed to offer stimulation to a woman’s G spot – a key element of the female anatomy which is central to pleasure and sexual stimulation.
Interestingly, there is no evidence from scientists that the G spot actually exists, but this region is nonetheless an important part of female pleasure and a G spot vibrator can be a great addition to your toy collection.
Rabbit
Another great option available in any sex toy shop is the rabbit vibrator, designed to offer both clitoral and penetrative stimulation at the same time. The shape is crucial to the sensation; these vibrators are often shaped in the same way as a penetrative vibrator, with the additional feature of a clitoral vibrator. This gives these sex toys their name, as the feature has been likened to a pair of bunny rabbit ears. If it offers a “two in one” sexual experience, it most likely falls under the category of rabbit vibrators. Learn more about how to use them here.
Bullet
These are small vibrators with a cylindrical shape, designed to resemble their namesake – hence, bullet vibrators – and tend to be shorter and thinner than other options on the market. A bullet vibrator may also be a rabbit vibrator if it offers the option of two in one stimulation. See here our top picks.
Cock Rings
Cock rings are an option which tend to be popular amongst couples. They are specialist rings worn around the base of the penis, and in some cases the testicles, and are designed to boost erections in men, making them bigger and harder, as well as helping them to last longer. These can be a lot of fun when worn in conjunction with other anal toys, such as beads or plugs.
Love Eggs
Love eggs are small in size, and can offer an amazing sensation. They are also flexible and versatile, and the smaller size means that they can be inserted into either the anus or the vagina – if you have multiple toys, you can even try both at once! You can learn more about using them in our blog post.
Wand
A wand vibrator is another popular option, usually combining sex toy and vibrator in one device. Wand vibrators will have a rounded, vibrating ball, which is attached to a handle, offering amazing clitoral stimulation. Here you can find out how to use a wand vibrator.
There are also remote control options for dual pleasure, such as this one.
How To Use A Vibrator And Choose Your Best Option
Type of Vibrator
Features
Best For
Penetrative
- Emulates a real life penis
- Range of shapes and sizes
- Beginners
- Those looking for a realistic toy
G Spot
- Internal stimulation
- Designed to target a specific area
- Stimulating vaginal pleasure
- Same-sex female relationships
Rabbit
- Offers a “2 in 1” experience.
- Comes with two sections for dual stimulation
- Incredible stimulation
Bullet
- Shorter and thinner than other models
- A range of relationship types
- Both sexes
Cock Rings
- Worn around the base of the penis to boost ejaculation
- Men, and same sex male relationships
Love Eggs
- Flexible and versatile
- Can be used anally or vaginally
- Experimentation
- A wide range of relationship types
Wands
- Vaginal stimulation and vibration
- Predominantly women
Making The Most Of Your Vibrator
Learning how to use a vibrator – and using your vibrator properly – is an important part of enjoying mind blowing orgasms, and there are a few considerations to take into account.
Get In The Mood
As with any sex toy play, it is important that you take time to get yourself in the mood before you start playing, whether with a partner or using a vibrator solo. Make sure you have plenty of time, and that you won’t be disturbed; if you feel pressured or anxious, you are unlikely get the most from your session.
Lube
One of the most important ways to ensure that you make the most from your vibrator is to ensure that you use plenty of lube – the exact option will depend on your toy, the material it is made from and your personal preference. Having lots of lube will ensure that your toy slides in more easily, and that you are comfortable at every stage.
Remember to take care when choosing and using your lube – some can degrade the material of your toy. For example, water based lube is best for silicone toys.
Experiment
One of the best pieces of advice we can give to help you make the most of your vibrator is to experiment – this is how you will find out exactly what you like and don’t like. One of the most important things you can do is have plenty of fun, so try to relax, take the pressure off and just go with what your body tells you. Particularly if you are new to vibrators, start slow to get used to the different sensations and your key pleasure points. Slowly insert and try different speed settings and if it has a vibration pattern, work through the vibration settings to see what works for you – and hopefully take you towards a mind blowing orgasm.
Using Your Vibrator With A Partner
Have A Conversation
Before introducing sex toys into your relationship, it is crucial that you have an open, honest conversation with your partner – the last thing you want is for your other half to think that they are being replaced. Be explicit about what you are looking for, what you want and what you are comfortable with.
Set Boundaries
It is important to set boundaries, and make it very clear if there is anything you are uncomfortable with – lay everything on the table in the early stages, to ensure that everyone feels comfortable throughout.
Taking Care Of Your Vibrator
To help ensure that your vibrator stands the test of time, it is important that you take good care of it. As is the case with any toys, the nature of vibrators means that they need to be thoroughly cleaned after each and every use. There are two main options here: you can invest in a specialist cleaner, available from any sex shop or site, or you can use a combination of hot water and soap, such as washing up liquid.
To clean, wipe over the surface of your vibrator with a clean cloth and your chosen solution, and make sure that you allow the toy to air dry completely before using it again. You can read more about cleaning your vibrator in our blog post.
Any sex educator will tell you to take the time to clean your vibrator thoroughly after every single use to help reduce the risk of developing bacterial infections, or your toy becoming mouldy. Your sexual health is important!
Frequently Asked Questions
What Is A Vibrator?
A vibrator is s type of sex toy which includes a motor, or pair of motors, and uses vibrations to stimulate a particular area of the body. A few models will offer simultaneous internal and external stimulation, while others focus on one or the other. Vibrators can be enjoyed alone or with a partner, and are suitable for all genders – if you want!
How Do You Use A Vibrator?
You use a vibrator in the most suitable way for the model you have chosen: each design can be used in a number of different ways, including for oral sex, anal or vaginal penetration, or internal stimulation using finger vibrators. Always follow the manufacturers guidance, as well as the instructions for your unique toy. You can use a vibrator solo or with a partner.
How Do You Use A Vibrator On A Man?
Use a vibrator in a man in the same way you would as a woman – with plenty of experimentation and good communication. Bullet vibrator models in particular can be a great option – these can be inserted anally, but also used on the skin, nipples and other sensitive areas to really get your partner in the mood.
Conclusion
Learning how to use a vibrator is a great way to add something new to your sex life, and to introduce something new and fun with your partner – without the risk of damaging the balance or structure of your existing sexual experiences. Take some time to do your research, explore the different options and models, and choose the right vibrator for you – and get ready for some serious fun!