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How To Ride A Dildo

How To Ride A Dildo

They are one of the most common sex toys in any arsenal, and often the most recommended by sexperts and fans alike. But have you found yourself wondering just how to ride a dildo for maximum pleasure? Curious about the ideal positions, tips and techniques to allow you to have the best possible time, whether alone or with a partner? If this sounds like you, you can rest assured that you are in the right place – we have put together the ultimate guide, featuring everything you need to know about choosing and using a dildo, the range of types available, the different ways to enjoy your new toy and the things you need to keep in mind to maximize your enjoyment.

A dildo is one of the most commonly recognized and favorite toy for many people, and it is easy to see why – its simplicity gives it plenty of options. There are two main ways to ride your dildo: either having the time of your life flying solo, or with a partner.

Riding A Dildo By Yourself

When riding a dildo by yourself, you can follow the same steps you would if you were riding a real penis. Make sure that you are totally comfortable with plenty of lube, and place the dildo in your preferred position. When you are ready, lower your body down onto the dildo until it is inserted into your body, and begin to rock your body back and forth to ride the toy.

Riding A Dildo With A Partner

When riding a dildo with a male partner, you can enjoy the pleasure of double penetration – get your partner to penetrate your vagina or anus using their penis, and use the dildo to penetrate the other orifice. You can then instruct your partner to move while you ride the dildo, ask them to move the dildo while you ride the penis, or a combination of these – it’s time to experiment.

Remember – whether it’s your first dildo or you not, riding a dildo can take a little practice, so it’s perfectly fine to try it out a few times before finding the right toy for giving you more pleasure.

Types Of Dildo

Not all dildos are created equal – there are a range of different types available to choose from, and we will explore some of these – and some of the best dildo sex positions – below.

Types Of Dildo

Suction Cup Dildo

As the name suggests, a suction cup dildo is one with a suction cup attached to its base, allowing it to be attached to surfaces such as walls, floors, doors and headboards, offering a wealth of new opportunities to ride in different ways. A suction cup dildo is a great option for those playing solo or with a partner – the ability to stick these dildos to mirrors while you ride opens up a lot of possibilities for kinky play.

Glass Dildos

Another popular option is glass dildos like these, which offer an incredible smooth, silky sensation, and have the added bonus of being suitable for temperature play warm up or cool down as you ride the dildo inside you. This means that you can enjoy different experiences with the same toy, and stimulate your whole body with both anal and vaginal penetration.

Squirting Dildos

A squirting dildo is a popular sex toy for those playing alone, as it allows you to enjoy the feel and sensation of the real thing. A more realistic dildo experience like this can also be a great choice for lesbian couples who enjoy the experience of penetration, ejaculation and squirting, but who don’t want to have to deal with a real penis, and the man attached to it!

Huge Dildos

If you are in the mood for some seriously deep penetration and filling sensation, huge dildos are a popular option – as the name suggests, these tend to be larger than average, and so may take a little practice especially in anal play. The effort is worth it however – these sex toys allow you to enjoy incredible penetration deep inside you, and an incredible sense of fullness.

Double Ended Dildos

Double ended dildos are ideal for double stimulation, whether you are alone or with a partner. If flying solo, you can enter the toy to enjoy dual anal penetration and clitoral stimulation. You can also do some threesome simulating as part of your sex play.

Type of Dildo

Top Features

Couples or Solo?

Best For

Suction cup

●       Can be attached to a range of surfaces

●       Versatile and flexible

Both

Enjoying hands free fun

Glass

●       Incredible, unique sensation

●       Can be used for temperature play

Both

New sensations and experiences

Squirting

●       Realistic experience without the need for a real penis

Both – particularly lesbian couples

A realistic experience

Huge

●       Incredible penetration and a real challenge

Both

A large dildo can be a real challenge!

Double ended

●       Allows dual penetration, and both anal penetration and clitoral stimulation

Both

Solo play, or sharing fun with a partner

Before You Begin

As with any sex toy, it is important that you are fully prepared and comfortable – this will help enhance the quality of your experience.

Lube

Lube will become your new best friend when you are experimenting with dildos, and it is important not to skimp on it. As a rule, water based lubes tend to be the best pick – these are less likely to degrade the materials of dildos, and so are versatile and usable for a range of toys and options. Make sure that you use plenty of lube both on the toy and on your body, to allow for smooth, comfortable insertion.

Foreplay

One of the most important considerations when playing with a dildo is that you are relaxed and in the mood – foreplay is crucial to this. Foreplay helps to prepare both the mind and the body for sex, produce natural lubrication which makes penetration for comfortable, and helps you to feel more connected to your partner. Taking the time to enjoy some quality foreplay will increase the enjoyment of the entire session, and make it easier for you to penetrate using the dildo you choose.

Remember!

It is better to take your time and get started slowly with shallow thrusts or smaller sized toys, than rush and ruin the whole experience.

Dildo Positions And Techniques

One of the major advantages of a dildo is the versatility and flexibility it offers – there are a host of techniques and positions to use a dildo, depending on your preferences.

Dildo Positions And Techniques

Double Penetration

This is a great position to try with a partner, and a common fantasy for many couples to use a dildo for double stimulation. As the name suggests, this involves a penis and a dildo, and you can choose to be penetrated by both in the same whole, or be penetrated in the vagina and the anus at the same time. It is very important that you use lots of lube if attempting double penetration, and that you go very slowly – the person being penetrated should be in total control at all times. For more information on how to use a dildo on your wife, click here. 

Bend Over/Boyfriend

A popular choice – especially amongst men wanting to explore anal penetration – is the bend over, or “boyfriend” position – the dildo is typically attached to a harness, and the other partner uses this to penetrate the male partner doggy style, allowing them to enjoy the sensation of being anally penetrated, even when in a heterosexual relationship. If you want to learn how to ride an anal dildo, you can do so here.

Threesome Experience

You can use a dildo with a partner to enjoy the sensation and experience of a threesome, without the complications of adding a third party into an established relationship – especially using your favorite suction cup dildo. With the right dildo, you can enjoy being doubly penetrated by your partner, and this additional anal stimulation can help to achieve the thrill and excitement of a threesome situation without actually involving another person.

Deep Thrusting

If you opt for a dildo which is extra long in length or one which is textured along the surface, you are likely to enjoy a little deep thrusting – as the name suggests, this involves deeper penetration, which allows the recipient to really feel every inch of the dildo as it moves inside the body – particularly in positions like doggy style. The stimulation and sensations which can be achieved from this are impressive, and you can play with different textures and surfaces for a range of sensations. Deep thrusting is perfect for hitting the P and G spots of the body, as well as the A spot, and the cervix. You can find best thrusting dildos here.

Short And Sweet

Sometimes, less is more – a short and sweet thrust can be perfect for driving your partner wild by stimulating the sensitive nerve endings which sit in the first third of the vagina. Short, sweet thrusts can be an amazing way to build up to something more down the line, or, if carried out correctly, can be sufficient to send your partner over the edge and have them begging for release.

Ride The Curve

Many dildos and other sex toys are designed with a distinctive, pronounced curve, which is specially intended to stimulate the G spot. Make the most of this by gliding the top part of the dildo across the G spot as you tease the dildo in and back out of the body.

Suction Cup

A suction cup dildo is also a great chance to explore the joy of dildos – the suction cup base allows you to attach the sex toy to your desired surface – table, mirror, washing machine – and this is a great chance to enjoy an amazing array of positions and angles. You can learn how to use it here.

Combinations

As well as using the dildo in isolation, it can also be fun to explore combinations with another sex toy, such as a butt plug. Here, you can start with a butt plug or beads inserted anally to ensure that your partner is aroused, relaxed and fully prepared, and use the dildo to heighten anticipation, or enjoy a big finish. A butt plug can also be a great way to get used to anal penetration before you go in with a dildo. We have put together the butt plug vs dildo comparison guide to help you learn about the differences.

Communication is key – make sure that you maintain an open, honest communication with your partner before trying something new.

Mounting Your Dildo

Suction cup dildos are a great twist on a traditional toy, and there are a range of dildo sex positions and options to enjoy, whether you are playing alone or with a partner. The only real challenge you will face is where to try and stick your toy next! Just always make sure that suction cups are fixed firmly in position on smooth surfaces before you get started, or you risk slipping – this could cause a seriously uncomfortable injury, and some discomfort which definitely doesn’t put you in the mood!

Mounting Your Dildo

Vertical

Vertical mounting is the best position for many women to enjoy both anal and vaginal sex, as the angle offers the chance for complete satisfaction. As the name suggests, you should fix your dildo in a vertical position, for example pointing straight up from a floor or chair. Once the toy is in place, use your body to position yourself in the best way, legs bent allowing you to sink your body weight straight down onto the sex toy, and enjoy either anal or vaginal penetration. As always – remember not to skimp on the lube.

Horizontal

A horizontal position is another hugely popular option for both men and women, as it helps to maximize G or P spot contact. To enjoy this, fix the suction cup dildo to a wall, taking care to ensure that the height is right to maximize enjoyment. Then, decide how you would prefer to be penetrated, and lean forward or back to allow you to insert the dildo, before gently starting to ride it. As with any sex toy or penetration, take things slow – especially if you are new to this – and use plenty of your favorite lube.

Bathroom

The bathroom is one of the most popular places to enjoy a masturbation session, and suction cup dildos allow you to take this to the next level. Use the shower wall to attach the toy to, get into position, and use the warm water in addition to your favorite lubricant. A dildo that is curved is often the best pick for bathroom fun; you can make the most of every angle to help hit your G spot.

If playing with your dildo in the shower, it is important to use silicone or flavor based lubricant, rather than water based – the hot water can wash it away, causing it to dissolve. Instead, take the chance to experiment with one of your favorite flavors or silicone-based lube – however these may not always be compatible with silicone sex toys so check compatibility before using.

Dildo Riding And Safety

Hopefully you will experience pure, intense pleasure and plenty of fun when using your dildo, but it is important to remember steps you should take to help keep you safe.

Use A Condom

If you are planning to share the dildo with another partner, use a condom. The surface of sex toys can be a perfect breeding ground for bacteria, and this can result in painful, and sometimes even dangerous, infections.

Take It Slow

It is much better to start slow and small, and build your way up with shallow thrusts. This allows your body to get used to the feeling and sensation of the dildo, and reduces your risk of damage or injury.

Beware Of Allergies

This applies to both the dildo itself, and any lube – make sure you are not allergic to any of the materials you are putting on or in your body.

Make sure you are in a position to focus on pleasure – and only pain you consent to – by following the safety tips and guidance.

Taking Care Of Your Dildo

Whether you opt for suction cup dildos, or super large fantasy fuck toys, taking good care of your dildo is so important for two reasons: firstly, this is an investment, and you want to be able to enjoy it for as long as possible, so making the effort to look after your toy is worth it. The second reason is your own health and wellbeing.

Keeping It Clean

The nature of dildos means it is crucial that they are kept clean and hygienic. It is recommended to opt for a non-porous material such as silicone toys – this material does not have places for bacteria to hide, and so tends to be easier to keep clean and sanitary. There are two main options for cleaning your toy – you can use a specialist sex toy cleaner, designed for the purpose (these are often available from specialist shops, or the place you purchased the toy from). Alternatively, use a combination of warm water and soap to wipe over the entire surface of the toy. Ensure that it is allowed to totally air dry before you use it again – once again, this reduces the risk of bacteria.

Remember! Clean your dildo after EVERY use.

Find out more about keeping your dildo clean in our blog post how to clean a dildo. And for the storage purposes, read our tips on how to store a silicone dildo.

Top Tips

A dildo can be an amazing addition to your sexual toolbox, and its versatility means that there are plenty of options and ways to play. With just a little consideration and a few checks, you can make sure that the focus remains firmly on pleasure. Remember that the focus here should always be on fun – a dildo is a versatile toy and can be enjoyed in a number of ways.

Top Tips

  • Use plenty of lube
  • Start small and work up
  • Maintain open, honest communication with your partner
  • Be open to new things
  • Experiment with a range of types of toy
  • Always remember excellent hygiene after every use

Frequently Asked Questions

You ride a dildo by slowly penetrating your body, either vaginally or anally, with the dildo of your choice, and then slowly beginning to move and rock your body to ensure that you are stimulated by the sex toy. There are a variety of positions and options you can try to find what works best for you.

Ride a dildo anally by being careful about the toy you choose – any anal dildos will need to have a flared base to allow you to stay safe, and reduce the risk of anything getting stuck somewhere it shouldn’t. Use plenty of lube, and start with a smaller sized anal dildo, building up as you gain more confidence and experience.

Ride a dildo without a suction base by placing the dildo in your preferred position with one hand, and using the other to insert it into your body, until you reach the desired position. Once inserted, keep hold of the end of the dildo, and move your hips and body carefully to allow you to ride the dildo.

You ride a curved dildo in the same way as any other – making sure you have the right toy for you, plenty of lube and take your time lowering yourself onto it and moving at a rhythm that works for you. Once it is in, you can gently move it in and out to really feel the curve of the dildo and hopefully some G spot stimulation.

Ride a dildo with a partner by enjoying dual penetration, either in the same hole, or by being penetrated in the vagina and anus at the same time. You can also use a strap on harness to give your partner a taste of anal penetration which feels amazing even in a heterosexual pairing.

Conclusion

Learning how to ride a dildo is a great way to boost your sex life, and can provide ultimate pleasure for both you and your partner. The most important thing here is not to be afraid to experiment with a new dildo – keep communicating with your partner when using a dildo, and you are sure to unlock incredible new ways to play!

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