So you have learned about the joys of having a dildo. Your toy has arrived on your doorstep and you are excited to try it out. However, once you start using it, instead of experiencing waves of pleasure, you feel unpleasant pain.
If you feel an unpleasant pain when using a dildo, then this article is for you. You’ll learn about what the most common causes of pain are and a few things you can do to try to remedy the situation.
If you haven’t had sexual intercourse before and it’s the first time you are trying a dildo, the pain may be caused by an unbroken hymen.
A hymen is a piece of small tissue that covers the vaginal canal. In most cases, the hymen naturally opens up as you age or engage in some strenuous physical activities. It can also be broken if the vaginal canal is penetrated during sexual intercourse. In some cases, the hymen is thick and remains unbroken.
If that’s the case, then that’s the most probable reason why you felt pain when you first tried your dildo. You can check this by looking at your vaginal canal in a mirror. This can be tricky, which is why it’s best to consult a doctor. A doctor can provide possible solutions if you indeed have a thick and unbroken hymen.
The Size Is Too Big
When it comes to dildos, the thing to keep in mind is that a bigger dildo is not necessarily better.
In fact, the most probable reason why using the dildo is painful is that the dildo may be too big for you. To be specific, the thickness or girth of the dildo may not match the size of your vaginal canal. Most women enjoy the feeling of having the vaginal canal stretched, but there’s a limit to this. If the dildo stretches the vaginal canal too much, it stops being pleasurable and starts causing pain.
If it’s your first time using a dildo, it’s very likely that you don’t know what the best size is for you. You should look for something that’s the average size and start from there.
If you think you could use a bit more size, then work your way up to a bigger girth until you find the perfect size. If it’s painful, then work your way down.
Too Long
Aside from the dildo’s girth being too big, it’s also possible that its length is causing the pain. Keep in mind that the vaginal canal has a limited depth. If you keep pushing the dildo inside and it’s too long, then you’ll likely start to hit the uterus, which can be painful.
If that is the case, this problem is easy to handle. You don’t have to insert the entire dildo. Insert just enough so that you don’t start hitting the uterus or other deeper tissues.
Unlubricated
A vaginal canal is mostly an enclosed space. During normal intercourse, the vagina produces a natural lubricant. Otherwise, the friction from the penetration causes pain. When you use a dildo, in some cases your vagina does not produce enough lubricant, which also causes pain.
Solving this problem is also easy as you only need to use a lubricant. You can buy lubricants at any online major retail stores, medical stores or adult shops.
Skin-Related Problems
The skin in your vaginal walls may be inflamed or infected or you may have a kind of skin disorder. Even an infection or inflammation in the urinary tract may cause pain while using a dildo. If you have eczema on your skin, it can also cause pain.
To solve this issue, you should consult a medical professional.
Vaginismus
Vaginismus is a condition in which the muscles in the vaginal area tighten up involuntarily. Typically, this happens while anticipating vaginal penetration, such as while you’re using a dildo. Vaginismus is often painful.
Keep in mind that vaginismus is an automatic response of the body and you have little control over it. Even if you had already enjoyed painless sexual intercourse, you can experience vaginismus.
Why vaginismus happens is not yet fully clear and it’s best to consult a medical professional if you experience the symptoms of vaginismus.
Conclusion
There are plenty of reasons why your dildo is causing you pain. In most cases, it’s usually because the dildo is too big, too long or unlubricated. These problems are easy to tackle.
However, there are rare cases when the pain is caused by skin-related problems, vaginismus or other medical conditions. In such cases, it’s best to consult a medical professional.
