The world of bondage play is an exciting one, and there are a number of concepts that can be included in this category – including domination. The sub/dom relationship stretches back across history, and remains a hugely popular form of bondage play to this day – particularly for women. Whether you are new to the world of female domination, or are simply on the hunt for some new femdom ideas to spice things up, we have all that you need to know – read on to discover all you need to know about femdom traditions, as well as the new challenges and rewards that you can try in your own relationship!
So, just how can you bring your ultimate femdom fantasies to life? From orgasm control to foot worship, we have some of the best female domination roles and ideas below – all you have to do is choose your favorite.
Femdom Roleplay Ideas
Roleplay is an extremely popular concept in the land of BDSM ideas, and this is no real surprise – roleplay allows both partners to act out their wildest fantasies in a safe, controlled manner, and this is hugely appealing to fans and participants. We took a closer look at some of the most popular roleplays below.
- Teacher & Student
The teacher/student roleplay has always been a popular one in porn videos and across the BDSM world – particularly for those who are fans of whips or corporal punishment as part of their BDSM play. Using paddles to discipline a wayward student who has failed to do their homework is a common theme, as is the assertion of power from the teacher, and the bad behavior from the student. There are a variety of punishment ideas, which can be a particularly titillating role for a male submissive begging for a punishment from “Miss.”
- Boss & Underling
Just as with teacher and student, the boss and underling interplay is the perfect choice for a female dom, and can help a submissive partner to really understand their place, ensuring that both of you enjoy the pleasure you seek. Typically, these types of roleplay will feature the female dom as the boss, who will usually be disciplining an unruly employee using a number of creative punishment ideas – the most important of which is that all femdom instructions must be obeyed without question.
- Cop & Robber
For a twist on femdom play ideas, cop and robber is a perfect choice if you get off on the sight of a bound submissive partner, and this can be one of the most creative femdom punishment ideas. This is the perfect chance to make the most of bondage tape to keep your prisoner in place, enjoy handcuffs or engage in anal play as a punishment for the crime.
As with any bondage play involving restraint, it is always important to ensure that both parties are 100% on board before proceeding, and to maintain open, clear communication to keep everyone safe, happy and having fun.
- Pet Play
Pet play is another inclusion in our list of creative femdom ideas, and this is a game that allows you to totally take charge of your pet, ensuring a huge turn on for both parties. From making the most of the best bondage collars to help with obedience training to learning the best bondage knots to keep your puppy tied up in place, this is a great way to assert dominance and authority over a male or female partner, as well as build that bond that is so important for safe, effective BDSM relationships.
Femdom Humiliation Ideas
In addition to roleplay, many relationships involving female domination will usually also involve femdom humiliation ideas – though the nuances of the relationship will vary between individuals, as we all have our own unique fantasies.
As the name suggests, this practice involves using humiliation to arouse and excite both parties, and can be a great way to spice up your sex life. We have some of the best female domination ideas involving humiliation below, from a simple foot fetish to gags and creative anal play.
1. Small Penis Humiliation
One of the most common femdom ideas involves humiliating a partner for their small penis size. You can combine this with other forms of femdom play such as bondage or oral sex, and typically involves degrading and insulting the small penis size of your sexual partner, usually with reference and comparison to other men.
2. Sissy Play (Forced Feminization)
Sissy play is another popular femdom idea, and includes forcing your partner to act in an overly feminine way, questioning and insulting their masculinity and making comparisons to men who are more “manly” and dominant. This can also include giving your man a feminine name and calling him regularly, or forcing your man to dress and act like a feminine woman.
3. Cuckolding
Cuckolding is one of the most popular tools in a femdom repertoire, and there are a range of femdom cuckold ideas that your partner is desperate to try. A cuckold is defined as a man with an unfaithful wife, and essentially involves interacting sexually with another man while your partner is watching.
Other variations include forcing your partner to select other man for you to have sex with or pleasure – the idea is that your partner is not “man” enough to stop his woman from straying and looking elsewhere, and his punishment involves watching her with someone who can meet her needs.
4. Manners
Learning manners plays a key role in any BDSM session, and is another popular femdom idea. The exact details will vary between couples, but the basic premise involves teaching your partner certain manners that they are required to follow – these can range from always kneeling when you enter a room to turning their backs while you masturbate, able to hear your pleasure but without being permitted to witness it.
The exact nature of the manners will vary, but there is one common thread: subs who disobey the orders that their dom gives, or who fail to show the correct manners, will be punished – this can involve trying new spanking positions and time outs, as well as other punishments – you can see more examples of punishments here.
As with any BDSM relationship, it is important that all punishment ideas come with a safe word, and predetermined rules to ensure both parties are happy, consenting and enthusiastic.
5. Verbal Degradation
Verbal degradation is another activity commonly found in femdom play, and involves “talking down” to your partner, putting them down as much as possible to humiliate and embarrass them.
6. Pegging
Pegging is another extremely popular BDSM practice, particularly great if you want to really show your sub who is boss. This involves wearing a strap-on or using a dildo or other aid to penetrate your partner anally, and can be used as either a reward or a punishment, depending on the nuances of your relationship, and the games that get your partner going.
7. Cum Fetish
A cum fetish can be a perfect chance to assert dominance – especially if you combine it with verbal degradation to humiliate your partner for their love of cum. Whether you force them to eat and enjoy their own cum, spread it across their skin or get them to play with your cum, this is a great way to play.
8. Financial Domination
What could be hotter than your sub having to ask you for an allowance? Take charge of their wallet for a thrilling form of control, and watch as they are forced to ask you for money – you can demand to know how much they want, what they are spending it on and make them beg for it before handing over a single cent.
Financial domination should only be in place while you are both in BDSM roles – any financial deprivation outside of the agreed scenario is abusive behavior.
9. Spitting
This is a form of femdom play that can be divisive, so make sure that you and your partner are on the same page before you proceed. If your other half is in the mood, spitting on them can be a great way to show your scorn and disdain and again, can be combined with verbal degradation and cum fetishes to enhance your play and put your partner in their place.
10. Service
What is the use of having a willing slave if you don’t make the most of them? Humiliate your sub and get the chores taken care of at the same time by using them for your own maid service. From vacuuming the floors to getting on all fours, this is a chance to really put your slave through their paces – and you can enjoy an extra treat by forcing them to wear a sissy outfit, such as the perfect French maid frock, for your enjoyment.
11. Golden & Cold Shower
Not satisfied with spitting on your partner? Then why not treat them to a golden shower, and let them bathe in the splendor of your urine? Once again, always communicate before embarking on any femdom ideas involving bodily fluids.
12. Naked Kink Humiliation
We all like our subs to be naked – but naked and humiliated is the icing on the cake. This type of femdom play involves not permitting your partner to put their clothes on, and forcing them to flaunt their nudity for your pleasure. Combine with a small penis and verbal humiliation for the ultimate femdom combo.
Femdom Punishment & Torture Ideas
Looking for femdom ideas that get a little more physical? Then read on to discover some of our best femdom torture ideas, and take your play to the next level.
1. Femdom Bondage Ideas
Bondage is often associated with feelings of pain, pleasure and sexual satisfaction – and we have some top ideas to get your sub right where you want them, and then keep them in place.
- Chastity Devices
Chastity devices can be a great way to take charge of your partner, allowing you total control over their sexual urges and release – you are the only one with the key to their pleasure. Cock cages, a chastity belt, a stretchy cock ring or another cock and ball bondage option are all perfect for orgasm denial and can help your puppy to learn how to ask properly for you to release their pleasure.
- Rope Bondage
Rope bondage is another very popular option, and can be something of an art form when taken care of properly. Take your time to learn about the different knots and ties that you can enjoy, and explore the variety of different types to rope – like these here – to become a master of the rope to keep your partner in place, and tied into all sorts of delicious positions until you are ready.
- Handcuffs
Handcuffs are a classic in the world of bondage and BDSM, and there is a good reason for this – they are always super effective. Whether you keep your pup in place while you prepare the next treat, chain them to the bed until you are ready for them or use cuffs to facilitate orgasm denial, these are a must in every dominatrix toolkit.
- Collars
Collars are another classic favorite and can be the perfect way to get your puppy to learn their manners. Many collars come with leashes attached, which means that you can transport your sub from place to place – make sure that they walk nicely on the leash, to feel free to punish them.
2. Tease & Denial
Teasing and BDSM go hand in hand, and every great femdom will know just how to push her pet right to the edge – before reining them back in before they have a chance to go over the edge. The trick is to know exactly what gets your partner going, and do just enough to have them begging – only to pull back at the last minute. This is ideal for reminding your pet just who is in control, and can be a great punishment for rudeness or ill-manners.
3. Choking
Choking is another form of femdom play that can be very popular and achieved with hands, ropes or even items such as an open-mouth gag – see more here. It is crucial that you only attempt choking if you have the skills and experience to do so, and ensure that your partner is 100% on board at all times.
If you are planning to try choking as part of your BDSM play, it is imperative that you have a clear safe word or signal, and that your partner is totally happy at every stage. Never attempt choking unless you are sure you know how to achieve this safely and with fully informed consent.
4. Impact Play (Flogging, Spanking & Paddling)
Impact play is another great option for punishing your partner, and popular options include flogging with chips, spanking or paddling. You will likely have a clear punishment regime set out as part of your dom/sub contract, so your partner should not be surprised at being spanked when they disobey the rules!
5. Chores
Forcing your partner to take care of the chores has a number of advantages: they get to please their mistress, you get to watch them work and there are fewer household tasks to take care of! For added humiliation, make sure you include tasks such as cleaning the toilet or scrubbing the floor – with plenty of movement in the rear end – and set up a schedule so that your slave knows exactly what is expected of them. Any late finishes or poor-quality tasks will, of course, be punished.
6. Kneeling
As a femdom, you want your slave to be ready and waiting at all times – and what better way to ensure this than to have them kneeling on command? Order them to kneel when you leave a room, and remain there until you return, or have them kneel by the side of the chair you are using until you are ready for them.
You can combine this with collars, leases and nudity for added spice.
7. CBT Kink (Cock & Ball Torture)
Similar to orgasm denial, cock and ball torture allows you to focus your punishment on your partner’s most intimate parts – common options include using high heels, cock cages or simply playing, pulling and gently spanking the cock and ball area as a form of punishment
Always do your research before engaging in cock and ball torture – this is a sensitive area, and safety and health need to be considered when playing.
8. Sensory Deprivation
Sensory deprivation is one of the first steps in any bondage tutorial and can include using blindfolds to cover the eyes, gags for the mouth or even masks for the nose and mouth. The aim is to cut off one sense in order to increase the sensitivity of the others – you would be surprised at how your sense of touch is enhanced when you cannot see what is coming!
9. Nipple Clamps
Another classic but quality idea, nipple clamps work by increasing blood flow and sensitivity to the nipple area, and can be used as a perfect form of punishment.
Gentle Femdom Ideas
In some cases, you may wish to assert your authority over your pet in a more gentle manner – and there are plenty of options to pleasure both you and your partner in a more relaxed manner. We took a look at some of these below.
1. Foot Worship
As we mentioned, feet are often a key focus for fetish – so why not order your slave to worship your feet just as they deserve? This can include acts of devotion such as washing and drying the feet, adding creams and lotions, sucking toes and licking or even nibbling your feet.
2. Pussy Worship
Your pussy is your source of power – and your partner should know and appreciate this. Enact your position as a femdom by ordering your partner to worship your pussy in any way that you desire, and don’t let them stop until you allow it.
3. Mommy Femdom
You can also assert your dominance by taking on a “mommy” role in your partnership. This allows you to care for your sub by showering them with attention, gifts, money and attention, and in return, they thank mommy for her kindness and generosity.
4. Top
In some cases, all it may take for your partner to get hot under the collar is for you to be on top, taking charge of sexual intercourse and acting as the dominant partner during foreplay. Being ridden and manipulated can help your sub to learn their place, and give you a chance to really assert your authority.
Frequently Asked Questions
What Is Femdom?
Femdom, or female domination, is a type of BDSM play that involves dominating and controlling your partner using a number of methods, including restraints, forced actions, obedience training, toys and devices, orgasm denial and other methods that help to create a dom/sub relationship and force your partner to do your bidding to induce sexual pleasure for both of you.
What Is Gentle Femdom?
Gentle femdom takes the ideas and practices of classic domination but removes the humiliation, pain and harsh punishment. Instead, the focus is on the dom asserting control and authority in gentler ways, such as foot and pussy worship, assuming a “mommy” role or requiring the sub to complete certain tasks such as massages and foot rubs.
What Are Some Femdom Sex Positions?
There are a number of femdom sex positions, and some of the most popular include the dominatrix on top of her partner – this can include being on top in a classic missionary position, through to squatting over a partner for more control and movement. Ultimately, the best femdom sex positions place the dom in the driver’s seat – often literally – and allow them to take charge of the sexual encounter.
Conclusion
Now that we have taken a closer look at some of the most popular femdom ideas, all that remains is to try out a few options with your willing partner – you never know what will hit the spot, and you will be taking charge and giving orders in next to no time!
